Hello everyone! I know I have not been keeping up my promise to post once daily so I have decided to apologize by posting my current beliefs and wisdom to share. Of course, I realize that most of you might take all these next thoughts in a way that is not how I intend it so let me just tell you now: these are my beliefs and I am simply sharing with you. I am not putting myself on a pedestal and trying to say that I know how life should be, simply, I’m just telling you what I think about certain things. Maybe you will agree, maybe you will learn something, maybe you will just resent my thoughts. I don’t mind whichever of these it is for you. All of what is to come is my opinions. That’s all. Other than that, enjoy!
1. The habit of saying “I’m sorry”: What an annoying habit. My belief in this is that if whatever it is you are saying “I’m sorry” for doesn’t directly involve you, keep your yap shut. This isn’t about you and you can’t understand and empathize. Be quiet. Not only will you perpetually annoy the person that you are saying this to, but you are accomplishing absolutely nothing in saying this. If what you say makes no difference on anything, why say it? If you have a friend who is sad or angry about something and you haven’t gone through it DO NOT SAY “I’m sorry”! They didn’t come to you for your pity. They came to you to let off steam and not be judged for it. They came to you because they know you love them and they expect you to have their back. So step up to the plate and have their back! Let them rant to you about what has happened, let them curse the world out, let them cry, let them feel emotional. If you have been in the same or similar situation tell them about it, compare your stories, rant with them. Not at them. Do not point what you feel at them. That’s not going to help. If you don’t know what to say at all, simply let them get it all out then try to cheer them up. Everyone wants someone to come to their side and let them know they are loved by you (unless, of course, you’re the one they are unhappy with). Don’t judge them; don’t tell them they are wrong or over-reacting. Even if they are, the point is to make them feel better, not put them even further down.
2. Weight and insecurities about it: As a teenage girl I know what it’s like to feel insecure. In fact, I battled with my insecurity quiet a lot about two years ago. I was an average sized girl surrounded by very skinny girls. And, as many know well, when you don’t fit in you feel inferior. I began to hate myself, in a way, and was not a very happy child. I would constantly weigh myself and then compare my weight to that of my stick-thin friends. I was always much heavier when looking at the numbers. Well, now over my insecurity, I have a fairly basic philosophy to keep out of the self-hating ring: just don’t weigh yourself. If you weigh yourself and you are fairly skinny, you will freak out and try to gain some more weight. If you are a bit too heavy for your liking then you will go crazy trying to lose weight. If you are the perfect size you will still worry night and day that you might suddenly lose this perfection. So my method? Don’t weigh yourself. The thought of how much you weigh will rarely ever enter your mind and you will be a lot happier. It’s much easier to get things done and live your life when you don’t let a simple thing like size pull you down.
3. What other people think of you: From the age you gain your own mind until you die, you will, to some degree, worry about what others think of you. What do I have to say about this? It’s none of your business what others think of you! Honestly, how silly is it to fret over whether or not Georgina Brown likes your new haircut? Or whether Tommy Whitefield thinks you’re cute? It doesn’t matter! Even if your best friend lied to you about liking you’re hair straightened, is that really going to change your life? You might get in a fight, you might even stop being friends, but, ultimately, you’re still going to live your life the same. Now, I will admit, that sometimes what people think of you can be a really life changing thing, for example, if your teacher doesn’t like you it’s a possibility you will fail that class. But on the whole, it shouldn’t matter that others think of you. It’s a complete invasion of privacy for them and also rather rude for you to spend so much time trying to figure out what they are thinking of you.
4. Trying to fit in with people whom you admire: All I can say to this is that no one likes a fake. NO ONE. You might know a group of friends who all have something in common. They all dress in the same way, or they all like the same kind of music, or they all like the same kind of movies. You want to be a part of this circle. One problem. You don’t share this common factor. So, you promptly force yourself to listen/watch/wear this so that they will like and hang out with you as well. First off, it’s really pathetic that you have to pretend you’re interested in something you’re not just so you can have these guys as friends. That doesn’t speak well of you OR your “friends.” If they only want to hang out with you because of what you wear/watch/listen to then they are superficial and don’t deserve your time. Instead of having to go through such trouble to be buddy buddy with these people why don’t you just be yourself? Your quirky, annoying, gross, funny, smart, one-of-a-kind self. Odds are there’s SOMEONE out in the world who shares your interest in WoW or James Bond. Don’t waste your time with people who don’t like you for who you are, be yourself and find someone who likes you and will stick by you.
That is all that comes to mind at present. I might get more to talk about later. Until then, i'll see you all soon :)
COMMENTS ARE BETTER THAN SAYING "I'M SORRY" (Really, it's true.)
Love,
Maria.
Good advice :)
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